Finding Yourself

I’m a little late to the party. Here we are almost halfway through January, and this is my first post of the new year.

The truth is, I have taken a much-needed break from blogging these past several weeks. I’ve felt guilty about it, but now that I am back, I realize I needed the time to re-evaluate what my online presence and purpose is.

When I first started this journey, my goal was to go from writer to author, and while that seemed to be a smooth transition, I discovered that for me, by chasing the dream of being an author, I stifled the writer in me.

A New Year With No Resolutions

I have never been a fan of resolutions, mainly because I can’t remember one that I have ever kept, and the feeling of continually failing to keep them became too overwhelming. So a few years ago I resolved never to make a resolution again. That one I kept. Go figure.

If You Have a Pulse, You Have a Purpose

When asked how he was doing, Paul Newman is reported to have answered, “I have a pulse, so I have a purpose.”

That quote resonated with me from the moment I heard it, but it really became my mantra at Thanksgiving this past year, when our family faced almost losing one of its pillars, our son-in-law. You can read more about that here.

Our son-in-law is back on his feet now and has a new found resolve to rediscover his purpose, and live his life making the most of his relationships and be a positive influence in the lives of others.

Living Life on Purpose

“Most of us live our lives by accident, we live it as it happens. Fulfillment comes when we live our lives on purpose.” ~ Simon Sinek

I have felt from a young age that life has to be more than growing up, getting a job, retiring and then dying. While each aspect is part of life, they are not living life on purpose.

Focusing on what encourages a fuller expression of who you are, opens the door to a much bigger world, a world where we become more empathetic, understanding and fulfilled.

Discovering who you are and what is important to you is the beginning to finding your purpose. The next step is making an effort to live in tune with those things. It’s being brave enough to walk away from things that are easy and put effort into what will make you the best version of yourself.

Getting Back to the Basics

Writing for me is like breathing. If I don’t write, I feel I am suffocating, and while I haven’t had a blog post in a while, I have continued to write.

Now, though, my focus is changing. By focusing on the writer in me, it allows the author to emerge without the stress and limits in which I sometimes drown. Writing is not only my passion, but it is also one of the ways I find my purpose. I write to encourage and help others. I write to share stories of hope and kindness in a world filled with sadness, fear, despair, and hopelessness.

Have You Discovered Your Purpose?

There are a lot of noises and distractions in our lives and we sometimes just go through the motions and checklists of the day, never really aware that we’ve buried the aspects of what we deem most important. By asking yourself these questions, you might find a quiet part of yourself that has been waiting on the sidelines for their turn.


  • What’s really important to you?
  • What are your core values?
  • What are you doing that might be interfering to what is important to you?
  • What can you implement today that would move you closer towards what you wished life looked like?


How you relate to others and engage with the world around you is directly aligned with your purpose. Your purpose should not be confused with your career, financial status or success. Your purpose is not your ego.

Read that again….“Your purpose is not your ego.”

As I write this post, I realize that in pursuing the ‘author’ title, I was allowing my ego to take control and distract me from my purpose. I focused on what I could get, instead of what I should give.

By living life with purpose, we become aware of who we are and what we bring to life each day. We make our decisions from our core values, and spend more time listening to our inner voice than being influenced by others. We strive to make a meaningful difference in the lives of others without expecting anything in return.

The new year is just beginning, and there is no greater gift we can give or receive than to honor our purpose. It is why we were born and the only way we become most alive.

What about you? Do you live your life on purpose or do you need to rediscover your purpose?


Remember – “As long as you have a pulse you have a purpose.”

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