Having Faith In What Really Matters
A couple of weeks ago, my husband and I watched “Bridge of Spies.” Towards the end of the movie Jim Donovan and Francis Powers are sitting on a plane waiting to take off when Powers tells Donovan, “I gave them nothing.”
“It doesn’t matter. It doesn’t matter what people think. You know what you did.”
Powers had been a prisoner of war and was worried that others would view him as a traitor once he returned to the States.
It can be difficult not to get caught up in what other people think of us. Wanting to be liked and have the approval of others is something we battle from an early age, and while it is part of human nature, it can cause us to doubt who we are and our abilities to live a positive life.
“Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your inner voice.” ~ Steve Jobs
What Really Matters
From family and friends to co-workers and acquaintances, everyone will have an opinion of who you are or what you do. One of the best things we can do for ourselves is to weigh those opinions. Some will be beneficial and be a valuable resource to us. But there will be others opinions we should take with a grain of salt, especially the ones given by the world.
People are entitled to their views, but one thing we should remember is, some of those same individuals tend to judge our story by the chapter they walk in on.
A Real Life Example
A few years ago, I was called into the human resource office to discuss one of my employees. Apparently, this employee said something that someone else overheard, became offended and felt it needed to be reported.
But the person who reported the grievance had been walking by our office only hearing a snippet of the actual conversation. What she thought she heard, was not even close to what the actual topic being discussed. Instead of investigating and asking questions she became judge and jury and was ready to sentence an innocent person for something they didn’t say or do.
How do we handle situations when we are falsely accused?
Here are Three Things You Should Remember
You Know What You Did
In any given week, many of us will face opposition from others falsely accusing us of wrongdoing.
Employers will find someone to be the scapegoat; exes will maliciously attack our character by their version of the ‘truth’ and others will take one honest mistake, blowing it into something far bigger, deeming us unworthy of a second chance.
It can be painful and confusing to be on the receiving end of someone else’s opinion or viewpoint, but if we’ve done the right thing, we can stand firm in that knowledge.
It Doesn’t Matter What Other People Think
“Do what you feel in your heart to be right, for you’ll be criticized for it anyway.” ~Eleanor Roosevelt
The number one question I get asked by people when I tell them how many kids I have is, “You know what causes, that right?”
Having more than one or two children was rare when we were starting a family. In fact, after I had my first two kids, I allowed the thoughts and opinions of society to tell me I had the perfect family. One girl and one boy. That’s all I needed. Shortly after our second child was born, my husband had a vasectomy. But my heart knew before we went to the hospital, it was the wrong thing to do. I knew there should be more children filling my house with the sweet sound of utter chaos.
Four years later, my husband would bravely go back to the hospital and have a vasectomy reversal, and thankfully over the next few years, we would welcome two more children into the world.
There were criticisms on both sides back then. We were crazy for getting the initial surgery done and even more insane for choosing the second operation.
In both instances, we knew who we were, but we allowed the noise of others to drown out our inner voice.
You Know Who You Are
“What God knows about me is more important than what other’s think about me.” ~ Surgeo Bell
If we are living as the authentic human beings we were created to be, then we are better able to shake off the negativity and judgment of others.
Knowing who you are removes the need to find validation or approval from others. It gives confidence when faced with adversity and brings freedom from the chains of self-doubt when thoughts and opinions of others cause you to question your abilities.
So the next time you feel your character is questioned remember;
- You know what you did
- It doesn’t matter what other people think
- You know who you are