A few years ago while the company I work for was undergoing a program conversion, I learned a valuable lesson about myself and the importance of asking others for help. During this conversion, I was reminded by a man I work with, that no one can go it alone, no matter how hard you try.
The quote “It takes a village to raise a child” is speaking of kids, but it applies to any part of your day if you look for the opportunities, even a huge company conversion.
I have ALWAYS been independent. This independence probably comes from being a military brat and then marrying a Navy man who was usually at sea. There are times when you are by yourself and have to find ways to MacGyver things to get them to work. So, I tend to do things that need to get done by myself whenever possible. From fixing washers and dryers to frying a VCR in trying to remove a stuck video tape. I tend to carry the burden and responsibility of ensuring things get completed. If the situation failed or faltered, well, I took that on as well.
So having to rely on other people to give up their time, their weekends, and their lives have been a hard concept for me to adjust to.
After a meltdown at work during this conversion, a great conversation with a co-worker, and a lot of apologies for my attitude, I have accepted that I am not able to do some things myself. I have to rely on a group of people to help make this project a success. And while they are giving up their time and weekends, (and I must admit I still feel sorry about that) I know that without their insight and commitment, this project would not have been successful.
Fast forward to today. I am better at asking for help although it still makes me uncomfortable. I am in a place where I need help and insight from others (you the reader) to make my writing better. But it’s hard. It’s hard to put yourself out there and let others see your work. A writer knows criticism will come, and while that is a good thing, it isn’t always an easy thing. A writer wants people to find something in their work that speaks to them. Something that challenges them or helps them become a better version of themselves. There are a million reasons why a person writes, but for me, I think Sylvia Plath said it best, “I write only because there is a voice inside me that will not be still.”
Every writer needs a reader, and every reader needs a writer. Both offer different thought processes and insights. Both can help sharpen and fine tune the world that they view. And so I put myself out here to share, to learn and to glean from my audience. It is part of growing and developing what has been tucked away inside me for years. It is me stepping out, asking for help and feedback. It’s uncomfortable and exciting, but it is time for me to remember it still takes a village to build and to grow.
I thank you, the reader, for taking your time to help me build this village. It is my hope that as we work together, we both remember we need one another.