KatieMae, Life and Happenings
It has been weeks since my last post. Christmas has come and gone, and all of us have flipped our calendars welcoming a brand new year.
The past several weeks I have had followers check in to see if everything was alright. Such sweet gestures brought smiles to my face, and while I tried to respond to all messages, I know I missed a few of you.
Early in December, my husband got pneumonia, I had ear and sinus infections, and before we knew it, family was arriving to celebrate Christmas with us.
After the Christmas holiday, round two of sickness hit us as we caught one of the worst colds I can ever remember.
My husband, who is no baby when it comes to sickness, (I have the badge for that) laid on the couch saying he felt like his brain was melting and oozing out of his eyes and nose. Throw in a cough that keeps you up all night, and you have the recipe for a rocking New Years Eve in bed by 8 p.m.
The only reason we knew it was midnight was when our two dachshunds came and burrowed in our bed as the neighborhood fireworks caused them to take cover.
Being sick over the holidays is awful, especially when you’re like me and want to have a full spread of food when your family and guests arrive.
But this year, there were limited sugar cookies made and most didn’t get frosted. There was no pumpkin cheesecake, no fudge, or other goodies. Heck, there wouldn’t even have been a turkey if my daughter and son-in-law hadn’t cooked it at their house.
But battling these crazy bugs that decided to pay a visit to our house these past few weeks, I have realized a few important things I need not only to remember but make sure I implement on a regular basis in my life as we begin 2018.
“Life is about balance. You don’t always need to be getting stuff done. Sometimes it’s perfectly okay, and absolutely necessary, to shut down, kick back, and do nothing.” ~ Lori Deschene
Being sick causes us to do pretty much nothing but be sick. There have been many hours spent sleeping or dozing off to old movies. But it’s in the moments of wake when my mind wanders off that I remember what really matters.
Giving of Yourself Matters.
No one asked where the dessert was after our Christmas feast. They were too busy playing board games and enjoying the time spent with one another.
When you have a daughter and son-in-law who live almost 3,000 miles away, and you only see them once a year, you tend to enjoy the little things.
The aunt who sits on the floor with her youngest niece, doing makeup and hair is more important than leftovers in the frig.
Or the son-in-law who caught the ugly bug Christmas day, waking up at 6 a.m. to make the 75-mile road trip the day after Christmas, to see family that couldn’t make it in for the holidays due to work.
Nothing speaks louder to others than letting them know they are valued.
It is something more of us need to remember and do our best to let at least one person, every day, know they are loved and thought of. I know I need to remember this more.
It goes beyond a text message. Texts messages aren’t wrong, but there is nothing like picking up the phone and having an actual conversation with someone. And a phone call doesn’t take that much more time than texting back and forth.
“Sometimes the most productive thing you can do is relax.” ~ Mark Black
As I looked around my house this holiday season, I saw toys, dishes and much more scattered in almost every nook and cranny and I sat and smiled.
Many years ago, when I was a young mom, a dear friend gave me a cross-stitch picture with the poem “Excuse This House”.
Excuse This House
Some houses try to hide the fact
That children shelter there,
Ours boasts of it quite openly,
The signs are everywhere.
For smears are on the windows,
Little smudges are on the doors
I should apologize, I guess
For toys strewn on the floor.
But I sat down with my child
And we played and laughed and read
And if the doorbell doesn’t shine,
His eyes will shine instead.
For when at times I’m forced to choose
The one job or the other,
I’d like to cook and clean and scrub,
But first I’ll be a mother.
Regardless of our title in our family, remember that each of us has the power to bring out the best in one another. Yes, there will be disputes and frustrations, but there will be much joy, laughter, and cherished memories too. Without each member of our family, we would not be the people we are today.
It is the one place where we should give unconditional love. It’s where we learn to practice empathy and compassion. In life, friends will come and go, but family will always be there.
“The time to relax is when you don’t have time for it.” ~ Sidney J. Harris
Many of us like to push ourselves; it’s our natural tendency in a fast-paced world. We feel more productive when we are busy, that is until we end up exhausted, overwhelmed or sick. The past few weeks have proved that to me.
The body is a strange machine. It will keep going as long as you push it, but somehow it knows when you are going to have downtime and that is when it sneaks in and takes you down.
I have done more laying on my couch and going to bed by 7:30 the last few weeks than I can ever remember. As frustrating as that is to me, I also know it is necessary to regroup and get healthy not only for my physical body, but emotionally as well.
The Christmas decorations will be taken down in time, the house will get cleaned someday, and my blogs will get back on track eventually. But for now, I am realizing how important it is to listen to my body and spend a few more hours relaxing.
My Wish For You
As we begin the second week of 2018, my wish for all of you is to consider a new approach and not to stress about living up to your resolutions. Sometimes there is a better way than trying to live up to tiresome traditions.
“Resolutions are something you make, resolve is something you have.” ~ Jeff Goins
Resolutions are a mere decision to do or not do something and typically end up by the wayside within the first few weeks of the new year, leaving us feeling like a failure.
Resolve takes hard work and commitment. It allows you to be human and when you get off track, it doesn’t point fingers at you telling you you’ve failed. Resolve cheers you on, saying “we all slip and fall sometimes, let’s try it again.”
Resolve is something you make happen. There are no shortcuts, but if you want something bad enough, resolve can get you there.
This year, I resolve to be kinder to those I meet, not forgetting this also applies to family and friends. To not stress about the small stuff, and to remember that self-care is vital every day to make that happen. Because it’s impossible to pour from an empty cup.
Resolutions or resolve? Share your thoughts below.